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Counseling in Arizona

Resources To Help You

The power to change is within you; I just help you find it.

As a licensed personal counselor who helps individuals and couples to move past abuse, I want you to find your AHA moment. In addition to the two books I have written on the subject, I host a weekly Facebook show that touches on topics that are important to you. And, of course, I am available to meet with you directly, whether that is as your individual, couples, or group therapy counselor.

Frequently Asked Questions

Please use these resources to find the answers you need.

Do You Help With DUI?

No, I do not offer DUI counseling.

Do you do psych evaluations?

No, I do not perform psychological evaluations.

Do you write prescriptions?

No, I do not prescribe medication of any kind.

Do you help with communication issues?

Yes. Often people talk at each other rather than to each other. I teach reflective listening skills.

Do you take insurance?

No, I do not take any forms of insurance. Although I am willing to work with you in the area of pricing. Get in contact with me right away to find out whether you might qualify for financial need benefits.

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is when the amygdala perceives a threat and tells the brain to release cortisol and adrenaline causing the fight, flight, fear response.

What is depression?

Depression can be clinical (brain chemistry issue) or it can be situational ie divorce, death, loss of a job.

What Is Narcissistic Personality Discorder?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental condition in which individuals have an inflated sense of self-importance, which exhibits itself in a need for higher levels of attention, a sense of entitlement, and a lack of empathy for others. Those who have NPD are controlling in relationships at home and at work, leading to emotional, mental, and physical abuse.

How do I know if I’m living with / working with someone who has NPD?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a clinical diagnosis in which the person has an inflated sense of self-worth. It is found in both Men and Women. Someone who has NPD will exhibit the behavior through an excessive need for attention, a sense of entitlement, and the inability to handle criticism. They will also have a keen disregard for others’ feelings.

What is the best way to communicate with someone who has NPD?

Since those who have NPD are egocentric, two-way communication can be challenging. Victims of abuse at the hands of NPD individuals often fall into a codependent, enabling relationship because they try to appease them. The best method of communication is a technique called “grey rock”, which is show absolutely no emotion. Think “zen master.”

Do people with NPD have other issues in addition to this diagnosis?

NPD must be diagnosed by a trained professional. It can sometimes overlap or be confused with other personality disorders, including Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD), or Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD).

What are the red flags of abuse?

The abuser follows a pattern of behaviors like a script.

1. Love bombing: Over-showering you with attention and acceptance.

2. Mirroring: Pretending to have the same interests and desires.

3. Mask wearing: Taking on a personality befitting the situation, to benefit their needs, disguising their true self.

4. Isolation: Pitting you against your friends and family, forcing you to abandon them.

5. Devalue: Criticism, making you feel that you can’t do anything right.

6.  Gaslightng: Reinventing history to fit their narrative or agenda, and denying how events really happened. Making statements such as “I never said that” or “You’re crazy, that never happened” are hallmarks.

7. Discredit: Turning things around to put the blame on you, dismissing your claims as untrue. They will do this to you, as well as family, friends, and your counselor.

8. Discard: Once they have gotten what they need, or feel that you have realized what they are doing, they will drop you like a hot rock.

9. Hoover: They will try to win you back, with promises of change making statements like “I’ll change, it will be better this time”, “I didn’t really mean it”.

10. Rinse and repeat: The cycle will start over again from the beginning.

Other Resouces

My Facebook Live Show

Tune in to my Facebook Live show, where I showcase top issues people like you are facing and how to end the cycle of abuse.

My Books

Humor and straight talk are what you will always get from me. My unique style transforms taboos into conversations.

Public Speaking

I often speak in public, educating and engaging groups at events all over the country. My humor and warmth usually have everyone laughing, crying—and talking.