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Ashley Madison is a website devoted to setting up “discreet encounters” – affairs! However, most of the women on the site were and by and large still are “fembots”, not real people – or they were “escorts” – prostitutes! http://www.digitaltrends.com/opinion/john-mcafee-how-no-one-got-laid-on-ashley-madison/ But one of their biggest weaknesses is a failure to verify email addresses. You can use anybody’s address – yours, your grandmother’s, your boss’, Justin Bieber’s, anybody’s. Since the data dump, Ashley Madison says they’re doing great http://techcrunch.com/2015/08/31/ashley-madison-says-business-is-booming/ but how many people are being unjustly judged and accused? How many people signed up out of pure curiosity? And how many marriages are now tanking because of the security breach? http://www.bbc.com/news/technology-34072762

If you are in a relationship, why cheat? https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201209/the-eight-reasons-people-cheat-their-partners You may stray from a committed relationship because your needs are not being met, or you are just narcissists who wants to prove you are desirable. Problems occur when your spouse accuses you of affairs, both physical and emotional, when you have in fact been faithful. Lack of trust often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy; you get tired of being accused and decide that if you’re doing the time, you might as well do the crime. It’s not a valid excuse, but you might try to use it! https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201211/healing-the-cycles-tear-couples-apart

The fallout from the Ashley Madison hack has been huge. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/fallout-from-ashley-madison-hack-continues-and-other-news-0828151 There are two suicides which may be related to the breach and there will be countless wrecked marriages and relationships. There is also talk of massive lawsuits and the company is offering a bounty for the hackers. http://www.cnet.com/news/ashley-madison-puts-bounty-on-hackers-heads/ Do the hackers have a moral stance, or is what they did wrong? http://fortune.com/2015/08/19/ashley-madison-media/ It was illegal, but some people will undoubtedly be pleased with the outing of this website’s users.

The biggest question asked in marital counseling when there has been an affair is, “Can the relationship survive?” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheri-meyers/for-the-betrayer_b_3269327.html Yes, but only if you own up to what you did, go to intense individual therapy and figures out why you cheated, and your spouse/significant other works on their own issues as well. “After the Affair” can help couples work through the breach of trust. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheri-meyers/for-the-betrayer_b_3269327.html

No need to be discreet, join us Saturday at Noon AZ MST on starworldwidenetworks.com as Kris and Steve ask the hard questions of those who cheat and have been cheated on, because we want to know what questions you have for them! Can they survive the betrayal?